This was a question that came to my Instagram Penpositive inbox today and I thought let us take this topic. I did reply to the person but thought a post can be better.
First of all I am not super rich… not even rich by many standards… but I am privileged and better of than a lot of people in the world because I have a job and a salary and a runway for a year or so… I have a house that is not paid off but there is shelter and not rented meaning it is an investment.
So I am not relaxed because I have money stashed away that I can retire today. I am relaxed because my needs are very minimal
I am ok with cheap alcohol… I cook food at home… don’t go to expensive restaurants.. I don’t buy branded goods… I don’t crave for fancy cars… I have a small house of 1000 sq feet which also reduces the stress of managing.
On top of that I am not worried about what my kids will do in their life or who they will become. That is not in my control nor should I. Their family.. partner… job… none of that is my concern.. I just want them to be healthy, happy and contribute to the world in their own little way.. I want them to dream.. not fulfill my dreams. I can do it myself. I only think of being there to support them in anyway I can.
I also don’t care what other people think about me. Yes I also feel sad when I hear things people say or did to me but then I move on as I don’t want to worry how I can control what they think about me. It is their freedom.. but yes as a human you easily fall into that feeling to be accepted by all.
What I have now are not things that I thought I would ever have (more about that another day). And even today I have time and energy to work get paid and also have time for friends, family, passion and projects such as this. I am not in a race or in competition with anyone. I am not looking to win because I know life is not about winning..
I get angry and I get sad and I express that with no guilt and I laugh loud and don’t worry if anyone hears that. I know I am imperfect and have no plan to gain perfection. A small chat with someone else can make me happy. A post I do can make me filled with joy and good movie can bring tears in my eyes… I cry when I want to and don’t bother hiding it.
I know that there are so many things in life that might feel to be important till we really ask why… I have my priorities very clear and many things that society thinks are important for relaxation don’t matter to me. For me it is a personal journey and I cannot judge how others should relax.
Finally I am not ambitious and I am aware many might raise their eyebrows when I say that but ambition is not what drives me… I am driven by continuous learning, value creation and removing waste that also means removing waste of time…. and yes I read daily… love to hear stories from others and like to tell them.. I am an aspiring minimalist and I am agile.. and I sleep well..
I can keep going on and on… but I am content and I will stop here… And I also know everything that I think is mine can go away in no time. There can be something bad out there that Incan have no control over… all I have for me is this moment… Here and Now!!!
And one more thing… I never plan to retire nor be rich… 🙏